While she napped, I thought. Just what is the best way forward after yesterday’s ‘phone call from school? It seems clear that this is likely to be an ongoing issue. If you remember we had a similar call a couple of weeks ago and then again while we took our second son to Uni. to begin his second year. That’s a lot of similar calls in a short space of time. If we rule out the option that I am unable to spot signs of illness in my own child, what other factors are there?
One thing I have noticed is that all bar the first one are Thursdays. I work on Thursdays, could my daughter know this and have anxiety about me not being in the house? For that matter, would she have known that I was also going to be making the trip to take her brother back to uni? The answer to that would seem to be to give up work. Well, on many levels I wouldn’t mind and in fact there is a voice telling me this is what I ought to do. The downside would of course be the financial hit on my family. I have two kids in uni and one in her final year before uni. Shudder. However, if it would help my youngest I would do it. It wouldn’t do much to help in bringing her home from school as I don’t drive. I KNOW! Who doesn’t drive? Well, me. I learnt with my dad but didn’t sit a test because of exams and then other things and let’s be honest, lack of interest, got in the way. Now my eyesight is too bad to drive, even if I had a licence I don’t think I would be safe since my distance judgment is shot.
It could be that my daughter simply doesn’t like something about her class, or what happens on Thursdays, or something else connected with school. This needs to be discussed with school. We need to see if they notice any triggers, beyond their suspicion I knowingly send a sick child to school.
Final option, I quit work, get written permission to take her out of school and see to the final years of my daughter’s compulsory education myself. What holds me back on this? Socialisation. My daughter is severely learning impaired, she has only a few words, she cannot read although she loves books and being read to, she cannot write, or even really scribble. Any crafts are done in the hand-over-hand method, in other words, someone has to guide her. All her needs have to be met by someone. What school does provide is the chance to be with people other than me, let her experience new things and most importantly, be with friends her own age.
I, however, have to think that perhaps it is time to step into the role of education provider as well as care provider if she dislikes school so much it is making her ill or making her behave as if she is ill in order to come home.
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I hope this Friday brings you some peaceful moments and that your weekend is filled with joy and rest.
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