Is there anything nicer when you come home from a long day at work than barely getting through the door for the hugs and kisses you receive? I think not. Nothing makes you feel more wanted than seeing another person’s whole being light up when they see you. I have to say, I needed that last night. I didn’t realise I needed it until 14 met me at the door and wouldn’t let go. I sank into the hugs and kisses and felt the first moment of peace all day. Here I was welcome, needed and wanted and more than that I had been missed.
We need to feel that. Somewhere within our lives we need to feel, no, not just feel, know, that we are needed and cherished. We need to have that awareness that our being is important to someone else. Without it we feel adrift and vulnerable, feeling that things could progress all too easily without us and we have no significance. Others might say the words, anyone can say anything, but we know when it is real. We know when we are needed and we know when we are kidding ourselves, even when we don’t like to admit it. Or perhaps that is just me. I also know I need to feel needed, to know that there is somewhere where I fit, that suits me and I suit it and we match.
Unfortunately the cold bug which 14 and I have been sharing has kept her home from school today and given her the chance to pretend to be asleep on the sofa while I take her picture. Oh yes, she knows I’m there, she just has no intention of admitting it. No need for grand gestures today when she has me all to herself.
While she pretends to sleep and I write this with a cuppa beside me, although not the nice strawberry one I snaffle when we are visiting the in-laws at the weekend as pictured below, I am going to relax, take a breath and know that this I can do. I can be what my daughter needs and make her happy. That’s pretty decent.
And I can see the beauty in steam rising from a hot cup of tea and know that there is nourishment in it for the eye, the body and the soul.
I hope your day finds you knowing you are needed and worthy and you have some space for peace in your soul, however you find it.
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janet isserlis - that’s hugely decent. it’s perfect. i’m so glad. I missed you, too, yesterday, and thought to send email, but was lazy. I’m sorry I hadn’t, but glad to hear from you today. xo
Penbleth - As always thank you Janet. When she eventually let me go I ate and fell asleep, it was a hugely exciting night.
Marjorie - What a beautiful post. As I read it it settled in my heart which said, “yes, that is what I need.” Thank you for putting that out there.
Penbleth - Thank you Marjorie, I am glad it spoke to you.
Jenny Fisher - Lovely post. I also forget how good a loving hug can be and the peace it can bring. Love the story about you and your daughter. Thank you
Shannon - Such a soothing post, in every way. Honesty resounds in your words – every mother can and will relate to that feeling when you describe walking through the door. And you find truth in the words about needed to be needed. Just lovely.
Sherry - Oh yes to being needed and loved and when we “see” that and “feel” it it washes away everything else in the day, in the world.
I’m chuckling that your daughter is pretending to be asleep and knows that you are taking her photograph and that’s she is okay with that — and she knows that you know. Special relationships allow those moments…welcome them in fact.
Take care of the colds, sip the tea, find peace and serenity, feel the love and let the steam and the warmth wash those cold germs away.
Sherry - Oh yes to being needed and loved and when we “see” that and “feel” it it washes away everything else in the day, in the world.
I’m chuckling that your daughter is pretending to be asleep and knows that you are taking her photograph and that she is okay with that — and she knows that you know. Special relationships allow those moments…welcome them in fact.
Take care of the colds, sip the tea, find peace and serenity, feel the love and let the steam and the warmth wash those cold germs away.
Sherry - I’m loving the look on your blog by the way! It has a warm and welcoming feel!
Penbleth - Thank you Shannon.
Penbleth - Thank you Jenny. There really is nothing to beat a good hug.
Penbleth - Sherry, she can be a real rascal and is so alive with humour. She loves having her photo taken, the only one of mine now who will agree to pose. I have indeed been dosing myself with tea, perhaps the bugs will float away. Thank you so much for your kind words, they mean so much.